Ikuko
10/16/2011
Hey I really cannot believe your attitude. I talked with Akiko and showed your
email and she cannot believe it either. Honestly you are acting like a child. We
appreciate you assisting in the classes and getting the beginning student but
recently your behavior is affecting the students and my ability to teach. You
were given the chance to meet to discuss this and you said no. Talking to you in
the street was the only choice besides email to explain the situation to you.
Beginning Class
It was perfectly fine for you to stay in this class until this past class. You
acted unprofessionally and showed your irritated attitude to the students and to
me. Even when I asked you to repeat a word a couple times you said “mou ii” and
would not do it which Akiko said was unacceptable for you to do in the class.
Then when leaving the house you barely acknowledged Akiko. Quite honestly it
does not matter to me and Akiko what you say to your sister and to the students.
It will be explained to them you were rude and unprofessional and this it the
reason for not keeping you in the class as an assistant.
Intermediate Class
The students both agreed it was better for them with you not in the class. They
are paying for English instruction and I need to respect their needs and not
yours. This was a BUSINESS DECISION and not personal and you should realize this
if you were acting like an adult.
You seem to look at things only from your side anytime. You forget the very
important fact it was a benefit for you to attend a couple hours of English
classes FOR FREE all these months. When we began the school we gave your family
the option of joining the classes for only 4000 yen. All of you seemed excited
about the offer and were interested in learning English but none of you enrolled
in the classes. This was really a disappointment for us but we did not say
anything to you and your family all this time.
Quite honestly contacting the other students about this is unprofessional and
immature. All you are doing is creating an uncomfortable situation for everyone.
For many months me and Akiko made parties and tried to create a fun and
different environment for everyone. As a Japanese person Akiko really
understands the stresses of Japanese people and wanted to create a situation
where everyone could relax. Because of you contacting the other students it
might be difficult for us to invite everyone to the parties now.
I found it interesting you are upset about not receiving thanks for being an
assistant. I can understand your thinking because for three weeks total time
within the last year was working on the vacant land next to our house. Even with
other men and boys in the neighborhood nobody offered to help. Nobody even
offered a drink or anything and no thanks. When the work was finished the boys
played in the yard and the neighbors relatives parked a car there even though
they did nothing and it is not even their property.
Then me and Akiko were nice enough to arrange for the recycle company to come to
this neighborhood and told the neighbors to put their stuff. I spent a couple
days VERY NEATLY arranging the materials to make it easy for the recycle guy.
Then early in the morning the neighbors literally threw their GARBAGE in messy
piles all over the front of the yard. Then me and the recycle guy needed to take
time to sort through the GARBAGE to separate out the recyclable materials due to
the inconsiderate behavior of the neighbors. Actually me and Akiko were both
pissed about it and decided not to arrange this type of situation again.
You are not the only one who is upset about all this and you need to realize
this. All of us are sad, disappointed, and pissed about things but you seem to
be the only person complaining about it. It will be difficult for everyone to be
good with each other from now.
Ikuko
10/15/2011
Hi. I want to really be straight with you. When you came to the house for the
last class it was obvious you were upset. When class was finished you walked out
of the house very quickly and seemed irritated. Akiko noticed your attitude
easily and was not happy. We talked about it during lunch. We decided it is not
fair to the students if you come to the class like this. I was not comfortable
teaching the beginning class. Really wanted to talk about all this with you
directly. Anyway it would be better for you not to be an assistant in the
beginning class anymore. Hopefully you understand about this. Send email when
you can.
Ikuko
10/14/2011
This email was written before class.
Hi. I really want you to understand about the classes. Actually the reason for
you coming to the classes was to get the chance to meet. You realize it is
better for the students if the classes are totally in English. If you are in the
classes it is too easy for the students to depend on you. Was kind of
disappointed you could not meet the other night. Really want to talk to you
about all this in detail instead of talking a few minutes in the street. Want to
talk about many things. Find some time to talk. Send email when you can.
Ayumi
9/14/2011
Spent the last couple weeks working on another fucking piece of shit property.
Even was working on it a week before the actual purchase. Front yard is looking
pretty good. You really need to visit now.
9/14/2011
Valerie,
Hi. I am getting ready to post on FB about this now. Wanted to send email to you
before posting. Purchased the house next to this house last week. Planning to
make a bed and breakfast. I love you and miss you very much. Send email when you
can.
Love,
Dad
8/2011 - flirting with Ayumi and Ikuko online - apparently marriage was not good
8/26/2011 - yeah bought the property next to this house. what the fuck. crazy.
8/25/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I am back from camping and really wiped out. Hopefully you are doing good.
Send email when you can.
Howie
8/20/2011
Hi. This is the information for the party next week.
END OF SUMMER BBQ PARTY
Date: August 27, 2011
Time: 1pm until next morning as usual
Type: End of Summer BBQ Party
Location: Ando Town close to Yamato Koizumi Station
Map: From the train station to my house
http://maps.google.com/maps?saddr=Yamatokoizumi+Station,+Japan&daddr=34.6150848,135.7513662+to:34.612206,135.749194+to:Japan,+Nara-ken+Ikoma-gun+Ando-ch%C5%8D%E6%9D%B1%E5%AE%89%E5%A0%B5%EF%BC%93%EF%BC%99%EF%BC%94%E2%88%92%EF%BC%93&hl=en&ie=UTF8&ll=34.617422,135.7587&spn=0.018824,0.038581&sll=34.613802,135.752081&sspn=0.004706,0.009645&geocode=FcRLEAIdqJYXCCmNB_vbCDABYDF0YdUcQmEAsQ%3BFSwvEAIdxmYXCCk5-Tjy_S8BYDGJtxkzvr-31w%3BFe4jEAIdSl4XCCnJ7wTj_C8BYDFP6Ima85t-TQ%3BFVUZEAId0XAXCCnX8ri3HTABYDGyQBc4RSVikw&mra=luc&via=1,2&dirflg=d&z=15
Going camping in a few hours until probably Tuesday night. You can call me if
you want.
080-4395-6840.
You can send email if it is better for you. Hopefully you can make it to the
party. Send email when you can.
Howie
8/20/2011
Ayumi,
Hey leaving for camping in a few hours from now. Probably can use cell phone
from the mountains. Send email to cell phone address if you want. Talk to you
again.
Howie
8/19/2011
Hey wanted to say see you next week. Spent much of the day getting ready for a
mega camping trip. Leaving on Sunday really early then back on Tuesday night.
Was thinking about you. Send email when you can.
8/13/2011
Hey cool. Need to go out with cousins to a restaurant tonight. Talk to you
again.
8/3/2011
Dessy,
Hi. I really enjoyed meeting you today. Thanks for showing me your studio and
letting me know more about you. Hopefully we can become much closer eventually.
You are a really nice woman and I am very happy to meet you. Probably going to
watch a movie tonight. Planning to upload pictures to FB tomorrow. Send email
when you can.
Howie
7/30/2011
Pretty wiped out. Going to see some fireworks tonight. Send email when you can.
7/30/2011
Hi. Actually we made another house party yesterday. Tonight we are going to
another town to see the fireworks. Next weekend is camping and the following
couple weekends there is no plan and maybe we can meet. On the 27th of next
month is another house party. It would be really nice if you could make it.
Please send email when you can.
7/24/2011
About Sakura Girl
Hey I think you are learning now. Actually met someone this weekend on the
beach. Kind of a long story. Recently getting more and more attention from
women. Think because I really changed a lot these days. Would be nice to get
same attention from wife. Send email when you can.
7/24/2011
Hi. I wanted to meet you. Tonight family came for BBQ. Want to know if you are
doing good. Send email when you can.
7/23/2011
Yeah we made some pretty cool friends. Was normal during daytime but became
crazy towards the evening. It was like OB in SD. Was some foreigners hanging
out. Really would be cool to go there with you. Send email when you can.
7/23/2011
Ayumi,
Hey really enjoyed hanging out at the beach in Kobe. It was awesome. Planning to
upload a lot of pictures to FB tonight. Send email when you can.
Howie
7/19/2011
Jim, Linda,
Hey guys. I really want to apologize for not writing sooner. Kind of a lot going
on these days and rarely online.
We spent over 18 hours out on Sunday at the Gion Festival in Kyoto and then went
shopping and out to eat in Osaka. Was really wiped out and now my knee is pretty
messed up. Putting ice and taking it easy the next few days.
Cancelled classes this upcoming weekend in order to take Shai to the beach in
Kobe. The train station is almost on the beach and easy to get to. This city has
a nice Jewish community and a synagogue. We are thinking about moving there
someday.
We put in an offer on the property next door last week. Still no word if the
offer was accepted. The property was listed for $48,000. Recently the agent said
the owners will accept almost any price now. In Japan houses retain almost
little value over time. The house is over 30 years old and the value is only in
the land. Japanese people do not remodel homes unless they plan to keep the
property in the family for many years. This house is almost identical to ours
without the back bedroom and second floor veranda. Actually three identical
houses were built on a single lot. Because of this the house can be knocked down
but not rebuilt. This is not a good selling point for the house as Japanese
typically take out the house and build new. In addition the house is the middle
house. Considering all this we offered $4000 which the agent thinks the owners
might accept. We are planning to use the property for parking and possibly a bed
and breakfast. It depends if I am able to work with Akiko. Recently we are doing
more and more thinks separately including business.
The typhoon which was pretty strong before has pretty much fizzled out.
Practically no rain and wind even though the storm is coming within a hundred
miles of this house. Then temperatures will go back up towards the end of the
week.
Shai will be two years old on the 23rd as you know. He is beginning to talk a
lot now. Would be nice to chat soon like maybe Sunday. Hopefully you guys are
doing good. Send email when you can.
Howie, Akiko, Shai
Ayumi
7/7/2011
Hey then try not to judge me so much. You know most out of all my friends the
importance of being with someone who has the same passion and desires,
especially for sex and intimacy. I really tried for many years to get the things
I need from my wife. She simply cannot do it or maybe does not give a shit to
try now. Either way it does not change my thinking and feeling about these
things. I am making the choice to be happy and do not want to be held back from
someone anymore, even my wife. You should be a little more understanding. Would
be happy to accept from my wife the things I am now receiving from other women.
Again something for you to think about.
Ayumi
7/7/2011
Hey you might live to eat your words someday. Difficult for anyone, including
you, to understand the situation unless you are stuck in the middle of it.
Sometimes simply better for both to get what they need outside the relationship.
A friend who came to the party last time is going thru divorce now. A couple
kids and the husband probably found another girl. A reason for wanting divorce
is he does not like the food his wife makes for breakfast. Go figure. Which is
better? Screwing up the kids and splitting up or simply looking the other way
and letting both do what they need to do to be happy. Tough choice. Something
for you to think about as you continue your search for a decent guy. You will
find out someday marriage is the most difficult thing you will ever attempt.
Ganbatte.
Ayumi
7/7/2011
Finally decided what the fuck now. Wife does not give a shit and will not
change. Really enjoying Japan this Summer. Who is the man? You know the answer.
11/29/2011
Johnna,
Hi. I wanted to send email and tell you we were really happy to meet you the
other day at the restaurant. No doubt much to talk about. Akiko was happy to
listen to your home education story. Hopefully Shai will do as well in the
coming years. Anyway links to all of our sites are listed in this email. Take a
look when you get the chance. Send email when you can.
Howie, Akiko, Shai
Ikuko
7/2/2011
Hey I think you already know about the BBQ pot luck tonight. Please bring your
entire family. Plenty of cow. Maybe a side dish is good and alcohol if you want.
See you tonight.
Ayumi
7/2/2011
Hey I really enjoyed the party last night. Many friends from FB came and brought
kids. It was crazy. Lit off fireworks and drank a lot. It would be really cool
to talk with you. Send email when you can.
6/29/2011
Miki,
Hi. I wanted to send you information about the party this weekend.
Date: July 2, 2011
Time: 1pm until next morning as usual
Type: American Independence Day Pot Luck Party
Hopefully you can make it. Please send email when you can.
Howie
6/24/2011
Asuka,
Hi. I was happy to talk with you today.
Please tell me if you want me to write to you in English or Japanese.
Actually my Japanese is not good but can try if you want.
Send email when you can.
Howie
6/16/2011
Miki,
Hi. I want to let you know we are making another party this weekend.
Date: Jun 18
Time: 1pm until ?
Type: American Style Pot Luck Party
Please come if you can.
Howie
6/14/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I am going outside to finish some work. Please DO NOT bring food for me and
Shai. If you want to eat then bring for yourself. Akiko made dinner for me and
the little dude. Can give you delicious wine. If you come then simply enter the
house when you arrive. Send email to keitai if you are coming.
Howie
6/8/2011
Hey I built this wall around my house and freaked out the neighbors. Really
funny. Gonna post pictures soon then.
6/1/2011
really trying to make this marriage work but difficult anytime.
5/27/2011
Hey party tomorrow at 1 pm until night. Please come if you can. Thanks.
Ayumi
5/9/2011
Hey I was really hoping you could visit and bring the stuff. Any intelligent
people in SD came from another place. Sites doing really good now. Made over two
hundred dollars in a day. Internet business is incredible for sure. If sites
continue to make good money going to move back home. Send email when you can.
5/6/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I am happy you could enjoy golden week.
I enjoyed the time very much.
I went shopping with Akiko to purchase more things to make the house even more
relaxing.
I worked in the yard and finished many detailed projects.
Then we went with her family to Osaka and the zoo.
We ate lunch on the grass of the park.
It was really fun for Shai to see the animals.
Then we all went out to a restaurant and drank beer.
At night they came for dinner.
Another day I went with Akiko and Shai to Nara park again and went to our
favorite restaurant and coffee shop.
Now my Internet sites are doing really good and Akiko is motivated to do
business online.
Anyway can talk more tomorrow.
Send email when you can.
Howie
4/25/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I found out from Akiko tonight her party is changed to tomorrow night. Let
me know if you still want to meet. Send email when you can.
Howie
4/23/2011
Ayumi,
Hey. I am not going to be able to let you stay at the condo now. I received
email from the dude and actually the Japanese guy said no about you staying.
Actually neither was good about it since they would need to move many things out
of the room where you would be staying. Hopefully you can understand about this.
Send email when you can.
Howie
Ikuko
4/23/2011
en. now naku for maybe thirty minutes. do not know why. maybe losing my mind
now. thinking about you.
Ikuko
4/23/2011
Actually things with Akiko much better now. Still need to move on eventually.
Cannot think about not seeing you. It is really sad. Probably will not sell for
many years. Wanted to tell you because you are important.
Ikuko
4/23/2011
Um I met real estate agent today and put house for sale.
Ikuko
4/11/2011
Hi. Please come in as usual. Probably will be watching television. See you
tonight.
Ayumi
4/11/2011
Hey this year is fun in the sun. Already finished garden and work in next yard.
Went to Yoshino for hanami last weekend and planning many things this Summer
including sex. Gonna be more fun. Send email when you can.
4/3/2011
Rafto Clan,
Hi. I am still amazed you guys are moving for a few years. It turns out you are
moving to a country which Akiko really wants to visit. Maybe we will simply move
in with you guys. Kidding, um maybe. Japan continues to work at getting back to
normal. Pretty amazing to watch the news since we are in the same country and
basically unaffected directly from all the recent events. Was really hoping you
guys were going to visit but this country is not high on the list of vacation
spots for people anymore. Shai is becoming quite difficult these days. At least
it is getting warmer and can take him outside and wear him out. Akiko continues
to work a lot of hours. Now the Internet sites are generating some decent
income. Finally getting around to working on the home education site. Now around
a thousand pages. Anyway we are thinking about you guys a lot. Send email when
you can.
Howie
4/3/2011
Valerie,
Hi. I was really happy you sent email and posted in Facebook and thought about
me as usual. Pretty much spent the day doing my favorite things. Went out with
Akiko and the little dude to an Israeli restaurant close to Nara Park. I really
like the food. Then we played in the park and went out for coffee and a shop
similar to Starbucks. Then we came home and got kinda drunk and watched a couple
of movies. You know I realize you were such a good kid. Recently Shai is driving
me crazy. He whines and complains and is becoming very difficult. Would be nice
if you could stay with us and you and I could watch him together. Really
thinking about visiting when you can. I love you and miss you very much. Send
email when you can.
Love,
Dad
Ayumi
3/28/2011
Yeah actually he was tired soon after beginning walking. He already spent hours
in the next yard. Came in and gave him a shower and he soon went to sleep.
Needed to take the opportunity to continue working outside. Can maybe talk
tomorrow. Send email when you can.
3/27/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I wanted to write sooner but was not feeling well because of a hangover the
last couple days. Anyway it was a good party again. I am happy you could enjoy.
Really hoping this will be a good Summer. Can meet more and learn many things. I
am working like crazy to finish many project before Summer comes. Going to be
working outside much of today. Send email when you can.
Howie
3/25/2011
Hey party tomorrow come if you can.
3/24/2011
Ayumi,
Hi. I am not going to be able to talk with you today. Really awful problem with
the house. Akiko needed to stay home from work. Going to explain in another
email. Can talk next week. Send email when you can.
Howie
3/18/2011
Ayumi,
Hi. I really cannot believe it but Akiko wants to move back to America again.
Send email when you can.
Howie
3/14/2011
Cheryl,
Hi. I was really hoping to get email from you. We are doing good and unaffected
directly from recent events. Still unable to contact some friends though. This
week is unbelievable. Japan is not going to be the same for quite some time.
Anyway Akiko is working full time now. I am watching Shai, the little stinker,
the entire day during the week. Continue to work on the Internet and now
teaching three classes in the house on the weekends. Beginning to get warm which
is a welcome change because this year was a bit difficult. Hopefully you are
doing well. Want to know what you are doing these days. Thank you very much for
writing. Send email when you can.
Howie
3/10/2011
Jim, Linda,
Hey I wanted to give you guys an update. Job is everything. Yup the way things
are in Japan. Actually yesterday Akiko went to work before 8 am and returned at
11 pm. Today she went to work at 6 am. She is barely spending any time with Shai
now. She really changed a lot since returning home. Really trying to hang in
there with all of this. Already contacted the real estate agent and the house
should be on the market this month. Send email when you can.
Howie, Akiko, Shai, AKA dysfunctional family
3/7/2011
Ayumi,
Hey actually next week will be better to talk. Now still sick and really
depressed and not much up for talking. Send email when you can.
Howie
3/7/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I am working and spending some time alone to think this week. Really the
driving practice was another awful experience in Japan. Supposed to meet you
this Friday if you still can and will explain then. Actually not going to send
email the next few days. Send email when you can.
Howie
3/7/2011
Ayumi,
Hi. I walked out on my driving practice this weekend. Another crap experience in
Japan. Send email when you can.
Howie
Ikuko
3/5/2011
Want to know if you will go to sister house. Want to tell you all an interesting
story about today. Send email when you can.
Ayumi
3/4/2011
Now I am really depressed and working and drinking again. Talk to you again.
3/4/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I want you to know I was thinking about you a lot this week. In some ways
meeting you made things more difficult for me. Really I like you a lot and
spending time with you reminded me of the way a relationship can be. Much of the
time with my previous GF was really nice. When I spend time with you it is the
same. Actually I think a lot of the fighting with you is frustration. Already
know if you and I were together it would be really nice. Now my time with Akiko
is really awful and I am getting frustrated because I know I could be happy with
you. Really want to get out of this situation as soon as possible. Send email
when you can.
Howie
3/3/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I was really sick this week. Almost could not watch the baby recently. I
really feel alone in Japan now. My marriage is not good. Anytime Akiko is upset
recently she says she is going to go home. She has family and can say these
things. If she takes Shai then I cannot be in this house anymore. Really cannot
understand why people get married anymore. Anyway we are in contact with the
Real Estate agent. This house should be on the market soon. Either way looking
forward to drinking wine tonight. Happiness in a bottle. Really sucks. Send
email when you can.
Howie
3/1/2011
Valerie,
Hey I am in with bronchitis again. This climate really sucks. Things continue to
be difficult in Japan. In fact this house will be put on the market this month.
Many things to talk with you about. I love you and miss you very much. Send
email when you can.
Love,
Dad
2/27/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I was really happy to see you again. Hey we should really not talk about my
previous girlfriends and your husband anymore. It is really potential for
fighting anytime. Much better to talk about work opportunities and ways to make
things better. Anyway really wiped out from working in the yard today. Send
email when you can.
Howie
2/27/2011
Ayumi,
Hi. I am sick with bronchitis again. Really nice outside today and decided to
work on a few projects. Now pretty wiped out. Going to eat spicy nabe and get
drunk again to knock this thing out. Really enjoying my work these days.
Planning many new projects within the next few months. Yeah you should leave
Japan. Send email when you can.
Howie
Ikuko
2/22/2011
Hey I really think you cannot understand many things. Since I came to Japan
everyone is judging everything I am doing and decisions I make for my family.
Maybe you are most difficult judge of them all. You say things like “if it was
your kid” and other strong comments. Many times you make me think I am not a
good parent because of your comments. It makes me very sad. It is easy for you
to say many things to me and then you get upset when I say things to you.
Honestly I am very happy with myself and many things. I am not trying to say
anything to make you feel awful. It is simply stating facts. Sometimes you tell
me you want to change your situation and then you continue to do the same things
every day. Then I make a comment about your situation and you get upset. It
really does not seem fair for only you to be able to comment.
In addition many times you makes awful comments about Americans even in front of
friends and students. These comments also make me very sad. You do not keep a
good image of Americans in your mind. Comments like “everyone says you should
give up about Americans” is really not nice to say. It is basing everything on
stereotypes which I need to see every day. Many people including the family said
many things about Americans. It was difficult for me to hold my thinking
anytime. When Akiko was in America she was accepted from my friends like family.
No comments were made about her Japanese background. The fact is Japanese people
think they are better in many ways than other cultures especially other Asian
countries and even over Americans. They look down on other people. It is sad
because many people do not even talk with me in Japan because I am a GAIJIN. In
reality Americans and other “outside people” are simply a curiosity for
Japanese. It does not matter if someone stays in Japan for many years they are
still not accepted.
I realize these days I tell you way too much information. I am not going to
discuss anything personal with you anymore. It makes it too easy for you to
judge and say things. Sometimes all I wanted was a friend who would listen and
not someone who will judge and give advice. I can understand why Akiko likes
friends but does not want to be too close to anyone anytime. Really not sure
what to do with the relationship with you from now. I really need to think. Talk
to you again.
Ikuko
2/22/2011
Really I want to say the same to you. Anytime you say kawaisou. It is same as
pity. Many times you say shai should be in preschool and many things about my
personality. It is the same. for some reason when I talk to you it makes me
really think I need to defend the way I am handling my wife and child. Many
times you do not agree with me and it makes me really feel awful and maybe you
think I cannot fit this country and culture. It is very sad. Talk to you again.
2/22/2011
Ayumi,
Hi. I really think this is it this time now. We are putting the house on the
market this week and the little dude will go to preschool in a couple months. I
wanted to talk with you today but was busy with the kid. Send email when you
can.
Howie
2/22/2011
Ikuko,
Hey I really do not expect you to understand about many of these things. You are
a very typical Japanese woman. You stayed with your family for many years
without a man and without doing anything different for many years. Now I can
understand it is really Japanese way. You sister is married to a husband who is
gone most of the time. These situations do not seem happy to me at all. What is
the point to get married if you cannot be happy with and maybe even not see your
husband most of the time. It is better to be single. Akiko is also very
Japanese. She is able to put up with any situation for many years. Actually not
every Japanese girl is like this. I was with Rumi and she was very positive and
motivated anytime. It is the same with Ayumi. When she is not happy she does
something to change her situation immediately. It really seems like Japanese
people are very unhappy. Many times Japanese woman I know both in America and in
Japan were crying because they were not happy. They were very happy to talk to
someone who would actually listen to them and not ignore them like in their
marriages. Maybe American has many problems but Americans really know the way to
be happy and be fulfilled. Japanese people think way too much and worry even
more. This is in many ways a very dark and depressing culture. Anyway we will
put the house on the market this week. I am going to put Shai in preschool in a
couple months if he can get in. Basically I am getting set up to go home. Send
email when you can.
Howie
Ikuko
2/22/2011
Would you be satisfied? It is not good for kids to be raised with only one
parent in some ways. Akiko does not see Shai at all. Now she has many choices to
make money different ways. Many times fighting because of her job. She can only
look along a very narrow road. If now I am with a motivated woman then things
could be different. She will realize she is making a mistake now. Send email
when you can.
Ikuko
2/22/2011
Hey it looks like my wife will be working until maybe ten tonight. If things
stay like this through the Summer then returning home. Already making plans.
Send email when you can.
2/21/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. Tanjoubi omedetou gozaimasu. Please enjoy with your family tonight. Akiko
will be very late tonight. Another event today. Probably will be online a lot.
Send email when you can.
Howie
2/19/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I was really happy with the party last night. I want to thank you for taking
friends to the train station. It was really nice. Going shopping today. Maybe
see you outside. Send email when you can.
Howie
Ikuko
2/17/2011
I am not going to ask her. I already told her. Why do you worry about her but do
sex with her husband. It is very strange you know.
Ikuko
2/17/2011
Want to talk. Recently Akiko is coming home very late every night. Tomorrow will
be really late again. Getting tired of this.
Ayumi
2/17/2011
Actually Akiko was really not happy in SD. Then we came to Japan. Nice place to
visit suck place to stay. Making a plan to go home.
Ayumi
2/17/2011
Hey I can tell you about another situation which is really wrong. These days my
wife is leaving the house at 8 am and coming home after 8 pm every night.
Actually tonight is was almost ten when she came home. Japan really sucks in
many ways. You already know this.
Ayumi
2/16/2011
Yeah no shit. Really I should be getting sex every night with a woman next to
me. Nothing. This is going to be no sex this year. Can get but do not want to do
unless other person really enjoys. If no passion with the other person then can
use a hand maybe a pillow. You are mental problem now. I am mental problem now.
Getting drunk every night. What the fuck is wrong with this picture. We are both
very passionate people living in a country where passion cannot be expressed.
You can understand about this.
Ayumi
2/15/2011
Hey I took the little dude walking. Was doing a lot of thinking. Now back to
work again. Send email when you can.
Ikuko
2/14/2011
Actually I totally can understand your thinking. Yes it is very difficult for a
Japanese woman to stay in America unless she is with a strong American man.
Maybe Akiko cannot make it in American on her own. I was protecting her anytime
even though she cannot realize. Many of my Japanese friends who stayed in
America and were single spent a lot of time really unhappy. Yes Japanese is a
very easy place to stay for sure. It is not crazy like American but it is very
limiting. Japanese people throughout this country think almost exactly the same.
It is an incredible thing for me. Even though many things I really do not like
about America at least I can think for myself. Anytime when I make decisions
like leaving job to make my own company everyone maybe thought I was crazy. It
worked out the then I could retire and do things I want to do now. Even now with
educating Shai at home and doing Internet business many do not get it. Even
Akiko is becoming more Japanese every day. It is difficult and probably I cannot
stay in Japan except for a few years. It will be nice to talk with you more
about this on the weekend. Really want you to read many things but it is
difficult English. Send email when you can.
Ikuko
2/14/2011
Actually Japanese is not as important anymore when compared to language like
English, Chinese and Spanish at least in the business world and economically.
Please understand actually I really like Japan in many ways but it is very
limiting. Many people are unhappy because they are unable to express their
desires both culturally and individually. I really want him to be an independent
thinker and use his mind independently from others. Money is not important to me
at all. Not interested in him working for a company. I prefer he does a job he
is happy and passionate about even it the money is small. Now I am working at a
job with not much money but I enjoy. Recently Akiko is beginning to understand
about this and is more interested in self employment. Working for someone else
means you spend your time and energy only to make a profit for someone else. It
is not happiness it is simply existence. Really want more for my kids. Many do
not understand. Really not sure you can either.
Ikuko
2/14/2011
This would only happen if we move back to NY. Actually the school are really
awful in CA. Colleges are good but schools really not good now.
Ikuko
2/14/2011
Yes Japanese culture really limits the way you can act and things you can do. It
is main reason why the little dude cannot go to school in this country. Akiko
agrees with this. Recently she is mendou kusai to talk to everyone. She says
everyone is pushing her because they cannot understand about this.
Ayumi
2/12/2011
Hey really sucks. No doubt you can contribute a lot to the site based on your
previous relationships and stuff. Posted pictures from another fun party last
night.
http://howiehayman.com/
Talk a look when you can.
Ikuko
2/12/2011
Hey I really enjoyed this party and seeing you tonight. I want to talk to you
about many good things. Maybe can meet tomorrow. Send email when you can.
Ikuko
2/11/2011
Um now working. Going to try and be online for a couple hours. Pretty tired from
playing outside today.
2/11/2011
much snow today and tomorrow.
Ayumi
2/10/2011
Hey it is snowing like crazy. Me and Akiko took little Shai out for a long time
to play in the snow. Posted a bunch of pictures.
http://howiehayman.com/
Send email when you can.
2/10/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I told Akiko for the party you are bringing a lot of food and drink and
stuff. I think she was happy. I need to know if you are only bringing yourself
and your friend. Then there is enough chairs. Because many of the guests are not
used to sitting on the floor this party will be on the tables. Anyway if you go
to the next house look at the snowman in the front yard. Posted a bunch of
pictures.
http://howiehayman.com/
Send email when you can.
Howie
2/10/2011
Ikuko said really like you.
Ikuko
2/9/2011
Recently I am making an effort to be good about many things in Japan. My
marriage with Akiko is not good. I am in the house almost every day except for
going out to the boring farm. Now I cannot meet people during the week and
cannot talk. Recently not happy being in Japan. Keep drinking alcohol every
night. I want time with you to be happy. When you ask many questions it makes
more stuff in my mind. When I invite you it is because I want to see you and
find some happiness in this place. I really need you to relax. It is most
important thing. Then you and I can enjoy. NO MORE THINKING. If you want to do
then you can. I invited you and your friend to the party. It is your decision.
Send email when you decide.
Ikuko
2/9/2011
Hey I think probably you can understand this. Japanese people are making me
crazy. They think and really worry about everything. Send email when you can.
Hi again and again and again and again. I am getting really upset about this
now. I tell you many times you can come and explain everything in detail to you.
And now you still send email about cancel.
Why is it so difficult for you to relax and quit thinking? It is your way
anytime.
I am making the decision for you since you are not capable of doing it your
self. Yes please cancel with your friend this weekend. Go and meet her in an
izakaya and talk.
Akiko knows about all this back and forth conversation concerning the party and
is not happy.
Really you need to quit thinking all the time. It is going to make many problems
between you and me.
Cannot think of any other ways for you to understand. Really upset with you now.
Send email if you want.
2/9/2011
Ikuko,
Hi again. I really want you to understand about this. Quite honestly you
misunderstand many things in English. You cannot catch many nuances and get the
wrong meaning many times. It is difficult to communicate with you via email
because of this.
I wrote exactly this in a previous email.
We WERE going to invite Takagisan. Akiko does not want any kids at this party
and decided to tell about party. It is her coworkers and their friends. She
wants a quiet evening with only adults.
The meaning is we were thinking about it and then decided not to because Akiko
wants only adults at the party. You need to think more in English and understand
these things.
It is only you asking many questions about the party. Watashi mou tsukareta.
I told you if is no problem for you and your friend to come to the party with no
kids. This was very straight. Really I simply want you to say yes if you want to
come, and no if you do not want to come.
I invited you for a chance to see you, which I already said in a previous email.
It is also a good opportunity for you and your friend to meet new people.
You decide if you want to come with your friend and give me an answer and no
more questions.
Send email when you can.
Howie
Ikuko
2/9/2011
Mou. This is not your party. Why are you asking so many questions? It is very
rude.NO TAKGISAN IS NOT COMING. Really I think it is better for you and your
friend to come next week to the party. Then kids can come. Maybe better to keep
only friends of Akiko for this party. It is what she wants anyway.
Ikuko
2/9/2011
Actually I need to tell you very straight. We were going to invite Takagisan.
Akiko does not want any kids at this party and decided to tell about party. It
is her coworkers and their friends. She wants a quiet evening with only adults.
Your friend is welcome to come but cannot bring kids. Send email when you can.
2/9/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I want to explain about the party next week. Actually going to keep the same
date and no changes. Really the only reason for wanting to change this week was
because many people from different countries are coming and thought it was a
good chance for students and friends to experience this situation. It seems many
cannot come and going to keep the party next week for the usual group. It is
going to be different this time since many of your family cannot come. Going to
invite different people next week. Send email when you can.
Howie
Ikuko
2/8/2011
Going to make decision then. Keeping the party on 19 of this month. Then will
talk with Akiko about you coming. Will then talk with you tonight. If you cannot
wait then you should keep your other plan for this weekend. This is my decision.
Send email when you can.
Ayumi
2/8/2011
Hey we are putting the house up for sale this week.
Ikuko
2/8/2011
yippee can become a monk. recently use my had to feel good. married with a wife.
makes no sense. marriage to the wrong person sucks you know.
2/8/2011
Ikuko
Hey no sex this year already.
2/8/2011
Linda,
Hi. I am really looking forward to email from you saying you are feeling better
again. I know you are not well for quite some time now. If you ever want to get
away for awhile you can come and stay with us anytime. You get the ticket and do
not worry about anything else. It would be wonderful for you to come and stay
with us for awhile. Sooner would be better though.
We are hanging in there and trying to work through a lot of marriage problems.
Yup we even talked about divorce several times. This is really a long story.
Suffice to say all the cultural and personality differences really caught up
with us over the last year. Much of it is personality though. Actually we are
not fighting this year but things continue to not be good. I am drinking pretty
much every night for the last year. Something is obviously wrong with this
picture. Fairly good chance the house will be put on the market and I might
return home sometime this year. It sure would be nice to simply come to your
house now and talk.
Anyway watched the superbowl in japan and live. Could not get into the game at
all thought. Watched it in the morning with Shai. Really not exciting.
I really miss you. Send email when you can.
Howie
Ikuko
2/8/2011
Party is changed to this weekend. Want you to tell sister, students, and family
as soon as you can. Thanks.
Ayumi
2/7/2011
Really good sex with myself recently. Yup this is marriage you know.
2/7/2011
Ayumi,
Hey I am working and on my to getting drunk tonight again. I watched the super
bowl on tv live in the morning today. It was fun but not even close to the same
as watching it in my own country. Yeah songs at the beginning really made me cry
and realize the pride in my country. I am really American. When I came to Japan
many years ago wanted to act like Japanese. Why? Now I realize it is cool to be
American. When we make parties and invite friends to the house acting really
American now. Any you know they really like it. Need sex now. Send email when
you can.
Howie
Ikuko
2/6/2011
now hair is completely black with no gray. wanted to put some brown streaks but
could not work. my hair is really strong to not accept color. was cutting her
hair and then she put color. both of us look beautiful now.
Ikuko
2/5/2011
Hey I think you went crazy because of the site. No problem though. Anyway I was
coloring my hair and than doing Akiko today. Now we are both beautiful. Taking
Shai for a walk now. Send email when you can.
2/5/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I went backpack shopping today. I bought the equivalent of 16 bottles of
wine and other food. Now relaxing tonight. Planning to do some work. Class today
was really fun. Yappari easier to teach students who can speak English. Want to
ask you to do something this weekend. Send email when you can online tonight.
Howie
2/4/2011
Ayumi,
Hi. I am getting ready for class today. Send email when you can.
Howie
2/3/2011
Ayumi,
Hi. I am really trying to hang in there and stay in Japan. Really want to go
home more every day. Cannot handle Japanese thinking anymore. Actually thought
Japanese people were very unhappy because they deny themselves everything.
Anytime worrying about the thinking of others. Now realize Japanese people are
not unhappy. They do not know anything except Japanese way and simply except. It
is like a kid who does not ever eat cake. Then they do not know about the good
taste and do not miss it. If they eat cake then they know the good taste and
cannot go back to no cake anymore. Japanese people do not ever eat cake and do
not know happiness in the way American does. Send email when you can.
Howie
2/3/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I realize now it is not possible to depend on Akiko for business anymore.
I know you said you would do many things if I ask you.
Really want you to post many things if you want.
Maybe it is good practice for your English.
Want to know if you can do this.
Send email when you are online tonight.
Howie
Ikuko
2/2/2011
Actually I really can understand your thinking.
Akiko said she can know this Japanese thinking.
Really everyone know this situation with you and me.
If everyone can relax then things will be good.
Anyway more site problems today.
Going to take much of the afternoon off and go outside.
Send email when you can.
2/2/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I really enjoyed meeting you.
Thank you again for the food.
Really you need to relax more and not worry about everyone thinking.
Actually you were really the only person freaking out about coming to the house.
If you keep worrying too much then might become difficult to meet.
Your thinking is coming and makes me crazy.
Anyway working and then going out today.
Send email when you can.
Howie
Ikuko
2/1/2011
Hi. Yup. I am wondering if you plan to bring lunch. Actually there is some
delicious alcohol waiting for you now.
2/1/2011
Ayumi,
Hi. I was home when you called the other day but could not listen to the phone
at all then. Was probably busy with the little dude. Anyway still not sure when
I plan to go back to SD. Many things happening now with work and other stuff.
Actually considering going to Thailand for a bit. Send email when you can.
Howie
Ikuko
1/27/2011
no. it is a couple hours for kids to play with each other. all women going. um
and me and the little dude then.
Ikuko
1/27/2011
Yeah but he will not go. Now on Friday every week parents are meeting. Planning
to go from next month.
Ikuko
1/27/2011
Today I went with Akiko to do stuff. We needed to change my foreigner card to
this town. Then we went for Shai to be with other kids and to investigate his
height and weight and condition. Then talking to many housewives. Anyway this
girl is with a baby. She is very pretty and looks like the singer Superfly. Then
she keeps looking at me. Then she sends email to the husband and he says to talk
with me. This is because she is good friends with Takagisan the neighbor who is
coming to party with the cool dude anytime. Anyway she know all about our
parties and really wants to come. Then she will come with family next party.
Send email when you can.
Ikuko
1/26/2011
Yes of course. We talked about it. Few foreigners in this neighborhood. If they
make a mistake and think it is me then I am thrown out of the country for good.
Actually I will be happy to go home but it would be very difficult for Akiko
then. Now you can understand about this.
Date: Wed, 26 Jan 2011 21:37:22 +0900
From: ikkun66cairns@yahoo.co.jp
Subject: Re:
To: sandiegocaliforniaevents@hotmail.com
Howie
I heard very funny information from Mayumi awhile ago.
Ando junior school teacher distributed the caution flyer to the students and
their parents today.
The flyer is the following,
Caution.
One strange man around here.
He looks foreighner and beard man.
He ride the white light car.
He said 'Where are you going?' 'Come on. get on next to me!'
Mayumi said with laughing 'He must Howie. He finally became strange man!'.
We were very laughing with talking about you.
Date: Wed, 26 Jan 2011 21:52:21 +0900
From: ikkun66cairns@yahoo.co.jp
Subject: RE:
To: sandiegocaliforniaevents@hotmail.com
And I want to tell you another caution fryer.
Mayumi got 2 fryers today from junior school.
Same as the strange man, then his lower body is naked.
He is walking around Ando cho.
He must be you!
Ikuko
1/26/2011
Hey I am waiting for my wonderful gf now. Send email when you can.
1/25/2011
Ayumi,
Hi. I want to tell you Happy Birthday now. You seem a lot better today. Anyway
enjoy and send email when you can.
Howie
Ikuko
1/25/2011
Hi. I think you maybe do not understand the amount of frustration these days.
Really very close to going home anytime. Really not comfortable in Japan but
could handle it if my marriage is not good. Because of Akiko really do not want
to do many things like driving these days. Everything is becoming mendou kusai.
Now my happiness is working on my sites and making plans for me. Really Akiko
took all the energy out of this relationship. Send email when you can.
Ikuko
1/25/2011
For many years really I am doing many things to make Akiko very convenient. For
many weeks now I am asking Akiko to do translation for the school and to finish
her work on the sites. Anytime she says going to do and does not do anything. It
makes more difficult to make money on the school because she does not work with
me anytime. A few sites were not working and could not make them work because
only Akiko learned the program. Now I am taking over the sites. Because of all
this do not want to get license now. Driving makes things convenient for Akiko.
Really I do not mind walking. She is going to need to think more about business
and other things. Then I am going to get the license. Honestly do not like
driving in Japan. Again remember it would be very easy for me to simply go home
and be in a beautiful climate every day. Actually my house is in a very good
location and do not even need a car. Everything is within a few miles from my
house. My friends all really like coming to my house for parties and do not even
need to go out for social contact. Now you know my thinking. Send email when you
can.
Ikuko
1/25/2011
Um not going. Akiko forgot to cancel as usual. She will need to do tomorrow now.
- driving test.
Ayumi
1/25/2011
Um duh. Actually I was wondering when you were going to say this. Really cannot
believe you lasted this long. Now same for me. Really thought I could fit in
Japan. In reality I am very American in my thinking and actions. Funny though my
close friends and neighbors do not want me to leave. Simply because I make
everything exciting in this place. They said if I return to American things will
be back to boring and people not talking to each other again. I brought this
community back together again. Now doing really good on the Internet. A bit more
income and can return home without worrying about money. Certainly will be good
to be in the sun again. Send email when you can.
Ikuko
1/24/2011
Yup I talked to Akiko about it tonight. I said to go out only if she wants to.
It is not pushing her out of the house. It is if she wants time away from me and
Shai. It is nice to meet with you in the house but would like to begin meeting
with you every week if possible. Send email when you can.
1/24/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I really want you to come to my house every week at night. Last couple times
were really nice. Going to see if Akiko wants free time to be with her friends.
Send email when you can.
Howie
1/23/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I think maybe a bit sick from the walk for shopping. Was carrying a lot of
food in the backpack and pushing the stroller. Was sleeping for awhile and
feeling slightly better. Send email when you can.
Howie
Ikuko
1/23/2011
Recently I think maybe you really do not know about me now. I am not the type to
be single. Want to be in a wonderful family with a wife who thinks I am the
world for her. This is awful for me to be with someone who is very distant
anytime. You went through divorce and split with your husband because it was
better for you and your kids. Really you need to think back to those times and
realize you were going through the same thing. If this is your thinking about me
then I need to ask you this. Why did you split with your husband? You should do
the same thing back then and think of your family but you decided it was better
to split. Eventually you and your kids adjusted and became good again. It will
be the same for me and Akiko then. Really you should know about this.
Ikuko
1/23/2011
This is not a happy family. If leaving is better for me and Akiko then we can
both be more happy and make others in our situation better eventually.
Ikuko
1/23/2011
Yes it is really not only about me and Akiko now. I need to think of everyone
including friends in Japan and back home. It is a really difficult decision.
Definitely tell you actual thinking this week.
Ikuko
1/23/2011
Recently I am thinking I am the problem for Akiko now. It is better for her to
be alone with Shai. Really I want to go home.
Ikuko
1/23/2011
Really I am trying and already thought about the things you said. This problem
is going on for a long time now. Then tonight I come out of the shower and Shai
is going crazy in the kitchen and Akiko is directly next to him and sleeping in
the chair. Many husbands especially in Japan do nothing for the wife. I saw this
many times when I stayed at friends house. The wife does laundry in the morning
and then works the entire day and then comes home and makes dinner for the kids.
Many times the husband stays out late drinking with coworkers and does not even
call wife to say will be home hours later. This is awful situation for woman in
Japan I think. In American the husband is home for dinner every night with the
family. At night the entire family will spend time together. The husband does
many things in the house because the wife is also working. I am doing many
things for Akiko and more and more recently like laundry and even watching and
feeding Shai at night. Anytime changing the house to make things more convenient
for her. Now she is spoiled many things. I want her to marry a real Japanese man
and then she can really be difficult situation and understand she shold be happy
now. This situation is becoming too much now. I really think we cannot stay
together. Send email when you can.
Ikuko
1/23/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I am fighting with Akiko again. Every nights she is sleeping. Really worried
about Shai. Now I was taking a shower and then I came out and Akiko was sleeping
on the kitchen chair. There was many things out in the kitchen and very
dangerous for Shai. Then we made a lot of mess on the floor. Then I became upset
with Akiko because every night she does not watch time and spend time with him.
Really I do not like her way as a parent. Now she is yelling and saying she
wants a divorce. This really sucks. Send email when you can.
Howie
Date: Sun, 23 Jan 2011 16:41:31 +0900
From: ikkun66cairns@yahoo.co.jp
Subject: Re:
To: sandiegocaliforniaevents@hotmail.com
Howie
You told almost everything about us to Mayumi and her hasband last night.
I was really upset.
Also you told your wife that we like each other.
I am really worrying if you told to her about our detail for example kiss and
something else.
Ikuko
Howie Hayman <sandiegocaliforniaevents@hotmail.com> wrote:
Ikuko,
Hi. I really got a hangover today. Anyway Akiko wants to stay in the house.
Maybe this situation keep coming up. When she is upset then she wants to leave
and then the next day changes again. We are crazy couple. I was really happy to
spend time with you last night. Send email when you can.
Howie
Ikuko
1/22/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I really got a hangover today. Anyway Akiko wants to stay in the house.
Maybe this situation keep coming up. When she is upset then she wants to leave
and then the next day changes again. We are crazy couple. I was really happy to
spend time with you last night. Send email when you can.
Howie
Ayumi
1/22/2011
Yup. I tried everything. she pushed me away. Going to neighbor house to party
now. Gonna be free. Selling house. Going back to SD. woohoo. See you there.
Ayumi
1/22/2011
Hey you suck. Now listening to black eyed peas and totally drunk. going next
house to see neighbors. Akiko will move out tomorrow.
1/22/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I really want you to know you are very important. You made an incredible
difference for me in Japan. If I cannot meet you then I am really unhappy now. I
am looking forward to meeting you anytime. When I see you then I am happy again.
Tomorrow Akiko will move to parents house for awhile. I was going to SD but then
we decided to do this and see. Yes of course if I go home then I am going to
miss you. Actually it is you who is making me want to stay in Japan. I am
thinking about you. Send email when you can.
Howie
1/21/2011
Ikuko,
Hey I want to thank you again for the food last night. It was really nice you
both could come to the house. I talked with Akiko and maybe it is too late to
cancel driving practice tomorrow. I really do not want to lose 6000 yen and will
probably go anyway. We are going to contact the real estate later today and ask
questions for now. I really want you to post a nice comment on my page in
Facebook today. Send email when you can.
Howie
Ikuko
1/21/2011
No but yappari Akiko gave up. Actually not going for driving practice on Sunday.
No reason to put any more effort into this situation. Simply going to sell house
and go home.
Ikuko
1/21/2011
Hey I am going offline now. When you arrive at this house simply come in then.
See you in a little while.
1/20/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I am looking forward to seeing you tonight. Send email when you can.
Howie
1/18/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I was sleeping a little again and feel a bit better now.
Yeah meeting in the afternoon next month should work.
Now continuing to work on more sections of the SD site.
Really want to finish this week and move on to new projects.
Going to be fun on Friday again.
Should be online much of today again.
Send email when you can.
Howie
1/18/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I am kind of sick again today. Maybe will be better in the afternoon. I
continue to work on the SD site. Send email when you can.
Howie
Date: Tue, 18 Jan 2011 09:16:07 +0900
From: ikkun66cairns@yahoo.co.jp
Subject: Re:
To: sandiegocaliforniaevents@hotmail.com
Howie
I am on the office now.
I want to have fun more and more with you from now.
I really want to enjoy with you and another world.
I really like you.
Maybe you can give us a lot of energy and Also I want to give you energy more
and more.
We must enjoy in this year again.
Anyway I really wanted to meet again last night though, but I was really happy
to get your email last night after we went back.
I really think I had a lot of experiences with you and more happy than before I
meet with you. Now really want to enjoy my life and continue it.
Ikuko
1/17/2011
Howie Hayman <sandiegocaliforniaevents@hotmail.com> wrote:
Ikuko,
Hi. I was really happy you and Maki came last night. I like to watch football
but definitely more fun if you both come. Yeah seems like Akiko really enjoyed
going out. It is a good chance for her to be away from everything for awhile.
She came like 30 minutes later maybe. Hey really happy I am a good influence on
Maki. If you bring her to my house more then she can know about Americans. I am
looking forward to meeting you guys again on Friday night. Send email when you
can.
Howie
1/17/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I really like this email you sent. Yes really try and make this year
fantastic. Meeting often is nice because it is something to look forward to
during the week. Friday is coming soon. Going to be online much of today as
usual. Send email when you can.
Howie
Ikuko
1/17/2011
really want you now.
Ikuko
1/17/2011
Hey I want you to come back now.
I want to hold you and kiss you and be inside you.
Now I am crazy to be with you
You are sexy.
Really want you now.
Ikuko
1/17/2011
Hey I was really happy you both came tonight.
I am looking forward to seeing you again on Friday.
Really wanted to be close with you tonight.
Ayumi
1/17/2011
Hey I am waiting for the ladies to come and watch football with me tonight.
Akiko went out with friends. Already getting drunk. Should be fun.
Ikuko
1/16/2011
Nope. Actually I went through many strange situations over many years. You
probably would not believe. You guys watch those strange movies which are really
gross and show awful images. Those movies are disgusting. It is not interesting
for me. Much more interesting to experience strange things yourself. Yes there
is someone in this house but it is no worry for me. Even Akiko experienced many
things in this house and in my home in San Diego. Really it is interesting and
good. Send email when you can.
1/16/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I am working again. Yup still pretty much the same today but used to this.
Anyway the football game tonight should be pretty exciting. Actually I am
planning to drink wine. Please do not bring beer. You can drink wine otherwise
simply purchase anything you want. Do not worry about getting a lot of food.
Akiko was thinking of coming home. She thinks maybe Shai is sick today. Either
way come with Maki tonight. It will be fun. Send email when you can.
Howie
Ikuko
1/16/2011
Hey please thank everyone for worrying. Yes I am very sick but getting this a
lot since being a kid. Simply takes time for this to go away. Better to simply
eat and drink and enjoy instead of wasting time in bed. Should be fun tomorrow
night. A football party. Really cool and fun.
1/15/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. Yes I am very sick now. I am not sure about tomorrow. Will need to wait and
see if feeling better. Send email when you can.
Howie
Ikuko
1/15/2011
Hi. I went outside to bring husband in house but could not see in the car. I am
very sick tonight but went outside anyway. Akiko is not happy about this. Send
email when you can.
Ayumi
1/15/2011
Hi. I went to another party tonight. It was a lot of fun. Then needed to walk
with family for 25 minutes to home. I am doing for them anytime. It is a good
feeling to do these things. Now eating snack and drinking wine and talking. I am
going to plan to visit you in Fuckoka. Really looking forward to drinking with
you and watch you get totally drunk then. I really want to talk with you and
spend time with you again.
Ikuko
1/15/2011
Hi. We are still eating snack and drinking more wine. I am going to be online
tonight. I want you to use the computer. I really like you. Going to send email
again. Send email when you are on the computer again.
1/15/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I want to thank you and your family for a wonderful evening. I want to
apologize for earlier today. I am happy everything is good with everyone again.
Shai fell asleep almost immediately and was completely covered. I was doing the
futon and putting away laundry already. Akiko does not need to do anything. It
was my decision today and I do everything now. It is all good. I am going to do
a few things then back online. Thank you again. Send email when you can.
Howie
1/14/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I really understand thinking of everyone wanting to do things for me and
Akiko today. I am American though and it is awful feeling for me to obligate
someone to do this for us during a party. It will difficult now for everyone to
be good again because your sister husband is angry and went from house in bad
way. Now you do not return email. It is making mess of everything. Now Akiko is
very sad. If I say no about ride then it should be no and finished. I am looking
after my family anytime. Want respect about my thinking and talking. Way too
much pushing from everyone now. Still waiting for email from you but nothing.
Maybe things are not good in your mind and you are angry again. Maybe we cannot
meet anymore. Want to know your thinking. Send email when you can.
Howie
1/14/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I guess we are not coming. Now Mayumi husband is angry and leaving house in
bad way. Yappari no more parties. I need everyone to respect my thinking as a
man and American. Cannot do this anymore. Going back to SD as soon as possible.
Send email when you can.
Howie
1/14/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I am happy you worry about my family. Please try to understand about this.
Today you make a nice party. It is very nice thing. You will be drinking.
Everyone will be drinking. Really do not want you to drive with alcohol even you
say it is no problem. Really not good with people doing many things for me. In
Japan though anytime everyone is very kind. It is sometimes a lot for me to
handle. Thank you very much for inviting us to the party. Everything will be
fine today when we travel to your house. Many times the last few weeks we go to
Nara Park and many places. It was cold and a lot more walking then today. Please
do not worry. Simply enjoy. You are a very nice woman. See you soon and do nice
time together. Send email when you can.
Howie
Ayumi
1/14/2011
Hey I really miss you.
Someday you and I can meet in SD again and be crazy.
Maybe you can move back to your SD home, you know the condo again.
Then I can celebrate your return to America with you.
Hey we can make this plan work you know.
Ayumi
1/14/2011
Hey I am drunk too and working. Really want to cut the crap with you and quit
doing general conversations. Want to talk same as we used to before. You know
you wanna. Anyway planning to return home later this year and work.
Ikuko
1/14/2011
Thanks. My conversation with you and anyone is private between people. Anyway
want you to go to SD with me eventually. Now working on SD site. Was becoming
really well known and then moved to Japan. Want to go to events again and enjoy
in America. Then you can come.
Ikuko
1/14/2011
Yeah kind of. Going to stay in this situation as long as possible. If too much
more trouble coming then simply return home.
Ikuko
1/14/2011
Yes I told Akiko about nabe party and about seeing you both days next week.
Akiko thinking does not matter to me now.
I know this seems very mean to you but it is the only way now.
For many years worrying about her.
Then cannot be successful because she worries about everything and holds back
any forward progress.
For example I ask her to be assistant in kids class if she wants.
Then she begins to make me crazy with questions and I tell her to forget being
assistant.
Then I send email to Nobumitsusan to join Facebook.
Told Akiko and she likes at me like stupid guy for asking older friend to join.
Today received email from him and when he joined facebook his niece in America
found him.
He was very happy about joining and connecting with relative.
Akiko was wrong again.
She thinks too much and no confidence.
I am not going her way anymore.
If my way then I can be happy and successful.
Now you can understand more.
1/14/2011
No. I really appreciate your kindness but this is my situation. We will walk
both ways and please do not push about this. From this year now I am making
decisions immediately and not worrying about those around me. Recently I know
many problems coming because trying to make everyone happy. Now I am going my
way and do what in my mind is best for everyone. Thank you but going to walk.
Ikuko
1/13/2011
Hey I really like you. Do not forget about this.
Ikuko
1/13/2011
Hey good. Bring food for the hungry man. Then I give wine to the beautiful
woman.
Ikuko
1/13/2011
Hey no more worrying. This year is going to be different. I am telling you to
come. Then come. You can bring Maki and her friend if you want.
Ikuko
1/13/2011
Hey beautiful gonna watch tv soon for about an hour. Then back online. Would be
nice if you can be back online again. Hey tomorrow is Friday and you are young
and can stay up late. Talk to you again.
Ikuko
1/13/2011
Yes of course tell her.
If I am younger then I am crazy about her.
I want to tell you something very straight.
You are very pretty.
You hide your beauty with foundation.
I know this is Japan.
Spots on your face are called freckles in America.
A girl with these is considered really cute.
When you came to my house the other night it was most pretty time to see you.
Really not kidding about this.
Send email when you can.
Ikuko
1/13/2011
Hey I need to tell you something. I look at pictures of your daughter Maki. I
think she is really a beautiful woman. Really not kidding about this. She is one
of most pretty woman in Japan.
Ikuko
1/13/2011
Yeah maybe wife is staying out late but you might meet though.
Ikuko
1/13/2011
Hey you can bring dinner and gonna give you wine then.
Ikuko
1/13/2011
Hey really think it takes a long time to sell this house. Do not worry. Yes I am
very American and I realize this more and more. I want to continue with you as
things were. No changes now. You and I will continue to meet each other. No more
talking about this. I want to see you next Monday and Friday. It is chance to
meet. If you cannot meet your house because of family problem then you will come
to my house. Send email when you can.
Ikuko
1/13/2011
From now I decided to anything I want. Really not going to thing about anyone
anymore. I make my own decisions like in America. I decided to make party every
month. I am inviting everyone who is my friend. If someone does not like a
person at the party then they should not come. It is not something for me to
worry about any more. I want to continue to see you. If you do not want then I
cannot see you. If you want then continue to meet. Going to a simple way now.
Everyone needs to worry about their own stuff. You and I cannot be fighting. It
makes no sense. You and I like each other and need to quit doing these things.
We need to enjoy every day. Send email when you can.
Ikuko
1/12/2011
Actually I was upset and saying many things I really do not mean last year.
Really changing now and thinking before speaking.
I want same as you.
Come to class this weekend.
Maybe we can get a chance to talk after next class in the afternoon.
Send email when you can.
Ikuko
1/12/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I know there is a lot of frustration for both of us recently.
Even though you say you are happy I know you are lonely and sad in many ways.
I am not happy with my situation either.
You and I like each other a lot and this makes things more difficult because we
want to enjoy time together.
It is difficult because I am married and you stay with your family in the house.
This year really made a commitment to myself to stay away from problems and
focus on work.
I am not going to be fighting with anyone especially Akiko now.
Everyone is important to me in this situation but now a lot of drama.
Really I want everyone to be happy and get along with each other.
If everyone is going to be crazy then I am going to stay away and focus on my
work.
If I am the problem then it is easier to simply go home.
Again I was actually suggesting not to see you for a little bit because you were
really upset last night.
Send email when you can.
Howie
1/12/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. Me and Akiko want to thank your family for everything. Yes it will be
difficult to see them now if I am not talking to you anymore. Thanks.
Howie
1/12/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I decided to write to you again and explain a few things which came from all
the email last night.
We were close for many months and I think you should know these things.
I am not sure why you were very upset last night.
I was not suggesting to stay away from you.
Was simply thinking it was good to not meet for awhile because you seemed really
upset.
Anyway I was not online when you sent your last email.
Actually I was talking with Akiko until around 1:30 am last night.
We talked about many things without fighting.
It is unusual for us and was nice to make some decisions without being upset.
We decided no more parties.
If there is a party it will be for registered students only.
Recently there is a lot of drama.
People coming to the party drink a lot and lose control.
In addition Akiko was not happy because some neighbors do not want others to
come.
We decided to put the house up for sale.
When the house sells we will get a rental place in Nara close to her work.
After she is in a good situation then I can return home.
This house was a mistake.
It took a lot of my money and time to repair.
This location is not good.
If I return to America then Akiko does not want to stay at this house.
Anyway hopefully you will be happy someday and find the things you want.
Maybe from now you can relax and be good again.
Howie
Ikuko
1/12/2011
Yes I am going to be straight and tell them we are fighting and I am not talking
with you anymore.
Ikuko
1/12/2011
Hi. I think you say there is a difference between married and single and I
should not accept nice words from a young girl.
I am married and accept nice things from you.
It does not matter to accept from a young girl and from older woman because both
are wrong because of married.
Maybe you can understand now.
1/12/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I agree about I am married and you are single.
Why is there a difference if I see you and a young girl.
Both situations are wrong.
Age does not make a difference.
Anyway it is no problem about next week.
I am going to make another plan.
Hopefully everyone in your family will be better soon.
Now I am going to work for awhile.
Send email when you can.
Howie
1/12/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I want to talk about a few things.
I want you to understand about Miki. Yes of course I was happy she was saying
nice things about me and giving me attention. If you went to America and some
good looking young man give you attention and says nice things to you then you
would be happy too. There is no reason for you to worry about anything. It is
not possible for anything to happen with someone this young.
A bit about the parties. I talked with Akiko tonight and we finally agreed we
should continue the once every month parties. Many people including students and
neighbors really looking forward to these parties. This is a home but also a
business and not fair to them to not make parties because of Akiko. This house
took a lot of my money and effort and I want to enjoy this house with everyone.
Monday and on Friday of next week Akiko needs to go to work parties at night. I
would like to eat dinner with you both nights if you can. Your house is good if
no problem. Kind feel strange inviting myself to your house but it is a good
chance to meet. I am with Shai both days.
Send email when you can.
Howie
1/11/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I want you to understand the problem with Akiko now.
For a long time we are fighting about many points about each other.
In reality we actually do not fit as a couple.
I already told you this many times until now.
I need to be with someone who is able to be close.
A woman who can be a wife and friend and lover.
Akiko really wants to do her own way anytime and for everyone to leave her
alone.
Neither way is wrong it is very simply different.
Akiko is very difficult to change and to forget the fighting from the past.
She said this.
Now I am changing because I realize many mistakes in the relationship.
Yes of course I am there for my family but now moving in my own direction.
I am not going to fight with Akiko anymore.
I am simply going to do the things I want and not push Akiko to go my way
anymore.
I think Akiko is a very lonely girl because she cannot connect with people in a
close way.
I am able to be close with someone easily and find a good point about them.
For me an important point in a woman is her ability to enjoy every day.
She should be very positive and confident about herself in every way.
I am happy you are doing good.
From today I am not going to worry about you anymore.
Everyone needs to find their own way from now.
Same as you now I am connecting with many old friends and making new friends.
I want my very small world to be exciting and happy more and more.
It is my new direction and already I am very much enjoying the new year.
I am considering no more parties though because Akiko does not like it.
Now I think it is better to meet new friends outside of the house.
Then Akiko can spend her time in any way she wants.
I think this is better for now.
Send email when you can.
Howie
1/11/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I am not quite sure what to say about many things. I realize the last few
months and especially the last few weeks any happiness I want needs to come from
me and not from others. Everyone around is unable to change and I want to get
away from this situation. I am working every day to change things about me and
my career and many things. Change is very difficult but it can be accomplished
with a lot of effort. You asked about my wife. These days we are not fighting
because of me. Now I am not getting upset and only Akiko is getting angry now.
Then she sees now I am not fighting back and she quits. The fact is we do not
fit and even though things are good now I am working towards going away
eventually. I need to make sure my family is good situation then I can leave and
move on to new things. Recently you focus on many small points like the girls.
If you want to enjoy time with me then put your attention to something useful
and productive. Your getting jealous and upset is counterproductive and keeps
you in the same situation. I can enjoy with you if you let yourself be free of
all these insignificant things. Now working out a lot every day and working on
my career. Hopefully this will be a good year with many positive changes. Send
email when you can.
Howie
Ikuko
1/10/2011
Hey I want to tell you today Akiko said no more parties for awhile. Then we
talked a lot today at the coffee shop. I explained it is not fair for everyone
to not do party because of marriage problems. Need to think about students. It
is also good image for her because coworkers enjoy party. Then she agreed. Next
month house party is 2/19 of next month. You can see it on the school site now.
Ikuko
1/10/2011
Actually she did not go to parents house. She went to friends house who came for
dinner a few hours before. Still family does not know anything. It was a good
decision.
Ikuko
1/10/2011
Hmmmm, good. Drank a lot of beer. Ate a lot of food. Kinda not feeling good
though. Some strange back problem. Anyway me and Akiko decided to stay same
house but be friends and not as much as a couple. It is better way. Hey you
looked really pretty last night.
1/10/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I came home from the park and needed to do some things and now online. Akiko
is making food because family is coming tonight. Then will be online again
tonight and talk about situation. Do not worry. Send email when you can.
Howie
1/9/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I really want to thank you for last night. Akiko called and then came home
early today. We talked and are planning to go to the park. I want to talk with
you about many things. I am going to send longer email tonight. I really think
you looked good last night. Send email when you can.
Howie
Ikuko
1/9/2011
Hi. I am going home.
Please come to my house now.
Ikuko
1/9/2011
hai. Not fighting but it is over. Now shai is going to sleep. then akiko will
stay parents house. then tomorrow we will decide about shai. now i am very sad.
tomorrow you do not need to work. please wait.
Ikuko
1/9/2011
Please wait maybe akiko is going to parents and shai will stay with me tonight.
Then I want you to stay with me tonight.
Ikuko
1/9/2011
Really do not want to make problem for Mayumi family. you and me are BF and GF.
Want to come to your house.
Ikuko
1/9/2011
your house.
Ikuko
1/9/2011
Now everyone in house. I want to read your email. I really like you. Gonna be
online tonight.
1/9/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I think you are not understanding about this. I am not blaming you at all in
fact really upset with myself. Actually want to spend more time with you. Really
though this last few months I am acting really stupid. Need more self control
for someone who is my age. Anytime very emotional and sensitive. Really want
attention from women because I am alone with no close family now and a wife who
is distant. It is difficult for me. Then when I drink want attention from women.
Mikichan seemed to really like me and I was happy and then drinking and everyone
said I was acting strangely. I want to apologize to you now for being a stupid
guy. You are really important to me anytime. I do not want you to forget about
this. I want to see you more and more. Send email when you can.
Howie
Ikuko
1/9/2011
Hey please do not talk about Mikichan. Now I am really embarrassed and feeling
uncomfortable about my behavior. I cannot remember many things from last night.
I am considering to cancel all parties and quit drinking alcohol. It is not good
thing for me now. I cannot enjoy party tonight. Send email when you can.
Ikuko
1/8/2011
Then I can meet you soon. Please wait next house.
Ikuko
1/8/2011
Maybe Akiko will do sogi. Planning to go next house with Shai because we are
jama. Can you go there again?
1/7/2011
Miyuki,
Hi. I want you to know the last year was very difficult for me and Akiko. Many
problems with the family and of course the house put a lot of distance between
us. In fact I almost returned to SD many times. Things seem to be much better
since the new year. Need to wait and see. Worked on this house for almost a year
and now much better. Thanks for listening. Hopefully you are doing well. You
know anytime you can talk with me about anything. Send email when you can.
Howie
From: saki3821@hotmail.com
To: sandiegocaliforniaevents@hotmail.com
Subject: RE: Happy New Year
Date: Fri, 7 Jan 2011 20:14:49 +0900
Heeey! How have you been?
What a beatiful your Shai is!
Finally, got married last fall.
But, I do not feel I can be a mother. I'm just not ready.
We also need to build a house some day.
Here in Toyama, we had white Christmas and Osyogatsu.
Wish you and your family a very happy new year!
Looking forward to seeing your great house!
SAKI
1/6/2011
Keeko,
Hi. We are making another party this weekend.
You can see details on my English Global Group school site.
http://englishglobalgroup.com/
Date: 1/8/2011
Time: 1:00 pm until late in the evening
Location: In our home
Guests are bringing food like American style pot luck.
Yes of course you are welcome to bring your friend.
You can come anytime since party will continue for a long time at night.
Send email when you can.
Howie
From: winona715@hotmail.com
To: sandiegocaliforniaevents@hotmail.com
Subject: RE: Happy New Year
Date: Fri, 31 Dec 2010 01:38:44 +0000
Hi Howie,
Good to hear from you. How's little Shai doing?? Hopefully you and your family
are all doing good!
I am getting lazy to check hotmail often now...so sometimes i will reply the
mail a little bit late!
However, it is good that i check the mail today and it is still not too late to
say HAPPY NEW YEAR to you!!
Wish you a happy new year! Takecare!!
Winona
1/6/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I really want you to do some Internet things if you can including joining
Facebook. Now I am making many changed and learning a lot of new technology. It
is easier to do these things with you if you join and understand many things. It
is a good opportunity for you to learn many new things. Really do not worry
about missing class this weekend. Take time at home and relax. It is much more
important for me if you can come to the party. Send email when you can.
Howie
1/5/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I am hoping you can be better for this weekend. It will not be the same
without you in class and of course I want you to come to the party. Going to be
online much of today as usual. Want you to join some online things. Can explain
tonight if you are online. Send email when you can.
Howie
1/4/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I was happy to read your email. It was very positive and good. Yes it would
be nice to do a nabe party with only your family on either of the days you
talked about. I am really tired from a few days of walking and drinking. Still
trying to figure out the site problem. Send email when you can.
Howie
1/3/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I was really happy to see you today. Yappari it is difficult to really relax
with you when I am watching the little dude. Really should try to plan some time
together when it is warmer. You can take me to Osaka and go crazy. Came back
from walking and not very warm. Planning to be online for awhile. Send email
when you can.
Howie
1/2/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I can meet you tomorrow if you want. I am planning to eat lunch before you
come. Please eat before you come and then you will not be hungry. You do not
need to bring snacks. Really not eating those things this year. Will send time
later today. Send email when you can.
Howie
1/2/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I am updating the SD site now.
Really enjoyed this restaurant and the food.
Should meet on Tuesday.
Went to Nara Park again today and went to different places.
Really nice view.
Send email when you can.
Howie
1/1/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I am going to be those things you asked and be good to you.
I want you to be the same.
I am thinking about you anytime.
We should make this a really nice year.
Send email when you can.
Howie
1/1/2011
Ikuko,
Hi. I wanted to send an email to you before going out today.
Last night went very well.
Actually the entire day was really nice.
Me and Akiko went to Nara Park again with Shai and spent much of the afternoon.
Shai was able to run around.
We went to an Israeli restaurant.
Then went out for coffee.
Then went to the house for dinner.
Tell you more when we meet.
Send email when you can.
Howie |
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